How to say “I hate you” in Chinese?

The opposite of 我爱你. (Wǒ ài nǐ. I love you.) is 我恨你. ( Wǒ hèn nǐ. I hate you.)

(hèn) is to hate or to regret. This word can also serve as a noun, meaning hatred. As with love, there are various flavors of hatred and resentment. (yuàn) as a verb means to blame or to complain. As a noun, it means resentment or antagonism. And 怨恨 (yuànhèn) means to hold a grudge against someone, or the resentment or grudge itself. 仇恨 (chóuhèn) is hatred between enemies. A deep-seated bitter hatred is called 深仇大恨 (shēnchóudàhèn).

恼恨 (nǎohèn) is to hate and feel bothered. 痛恨 (tònghèn) is to utterly hate someone or something. 憎恨 (zēnghèn) means to detest. 嫉妒 (jídù) is to be jealous of someone. Therefore, 嫉恨 (jíhèn) is to hate out of envy. 愤恨 (fènhèn) is to hate with indignation. These words can also be used as nouns, as the following example shows:

Tā de yǎnshén lùchū wúxiàn zēnghèn.
The expression in his eyes revealed immeasurable detestation.

In the above sentence, 无限 means without limit, or infinite.

怀恨 (huáihèn), or 记恨 (jíhèn), means to nurse a hatred or resentment.

Tā duì nǐ huáihèn zài xīn.
He bears deep grudges towards you.

可恨 (kěhèn) is an adjective that means abominable.

Nà xiǎotōu zhēn kěhèn.
That thief is really despictable.

The phrase 恨不得 (hènbude) expresses a great desire to achieve an unlikely result or effect and the regret of not being able to do so.

Wǒ hènbude mǎshàng fēi dào nǐ shēnbiān.
I wish I could fly over right away to be by your side.

后悔 (hǒuhuǐ) means to regret or to feel remorseful. Therefore, 悔恨 (huǐhèn) means to be deeply remorseful. Here, the “resentment” is towards oneself.

Wǒ hǒuhuǐ méiyǒu dǎdiànhuà gěi tā.
I regret not having called him.

对于那事件, 我感到非常悔恨.
Duìyú nà shìjiàn, wǒ gǎndào fēicháng huǐhèn.
I feel extremely sorry about that incident.

Please note that when by “hating” you mean “being displeased”, you should use 不高兴 (bù gāoxìng) rather than (hèn).

Wǒ bù gāoxìng tā yòu chídào le.
I hate that he’s late again.

What else will irk you?


3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Anthony Bogadek
    Feb 20, 2013 @ 11:36:09

    Hi, dear Ms Lin,
    A lesson on hatred! Ah, it’s Chinese New Year time: a time of friendship and love. I guess we should hate evil and wars; so the vocabulary is still useful!!!

    I have a few points for your consideration:
    1. Re. “Therefore 嫉恨 (zēng​hèn) is to hate out of envy.” For 嫉恨 the Chinese dictionary gives the pinyin “jí​hèn” not “zēng​hèn”.
    2. Re. “懷恨 huái​hèn, or 記恨 huái​hèn, means to nurse a hatred or resentment.” The characters for 記恨 seem to be “jì​hèn”, not “huái​hèn”.
    3. Re: “Ta1 dui4 ni3 huai2hen4 zai4 xin5.” The dictionary uses the first tone for xin1 (心 xīn ) in the phrase 在 心 zài xīn.
    4. In “Wo3 hou4hui5 mei2you3 da3dian4hua4 gei3 ta1.” there is some unnecessary pinyin (hòu​huǐ) at the end of the Chinese characters text.
    5. The same (hòu​huǐ) appears again at the end of the Chinese characters line “Dui4 yu2 na4 shi4jian4, wo3 gan3dao4 fei1chang2 hui2hen.” It may not be needed there either.
    Happy Chinese new year to you and yours.
    Anthony Bee


    • likeabridge
      Feb 20, 2013 @ 15:02:26

      Hi Anthony,

      Thank you very much for your comments. I have made the suggested corrections.

      You’re right that the Chinese New Year celebration used to last 15 days, terminating in the Lantern Festival. May the new year bring you peace and happiness.


  2. Anthony Bogadek
    Feb 20, 2013 @ 11:39:46

    Hi Miss Lin,
    A small correction to my comments:
    2. Re. “懷恨 huái​hèn, or 記恨 huái​hèn, means to nurse a hatred or resentment.” The pinyin for 記恨 seem to be “jì​hèn”, not “huái​hèn”.
    Best regards,
    A bee


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